Cindy Gallop was in Australia again this week; a tiny lion of a woman whose twitter tagline is “I like to blow shit up. I am the Michael Bay of business.”
Whether Cindy strides into the party, onto the stage, or simply into the bathroom to wash her hands, she’s often found resplendent in chrome tipped, black kid, stiletto boots, a black leather dress and an attitude. Shitloads of attitude. She’s a woman who roars. Partial to a whisky or two and standing slightly less tall then me (that’s not very tall at all), Cindy is also one of the warmest, most approachable power-brokers I’ve ever met, she’s huggy, funny, interested and stunningly articulate.
As Founder of the sex-tech venture makelovenotporn.com, she’s out to create the Khan Academy of sex education, working on the premise that healthy consensual sex is one of the most normal, and often most beautiful of human behaviours, and yet remains the most taboo. We don’t talk about it, share it, or compare it.
Most disturbing, is the emerging reality that our kids through the explosion of online hard core content, are starting to believe hairless, bleached, moaning, explicit, subjugated, conjugation is the norm. This, says Cindy, is a problem. The conversations we need to be having with our children have changed, in light of their virtually unfettered access to highly graphic content, which does not accurately reflect most people’s sexual reality.
Back then, when we were dancing to Duran Duran and INXS, “Where did I come from?” was the text of choice. Now children are getting access to hard core content as young as six to eight years old, and it’s setting unrealistic expectations and angst about the practice preferences of both men and women, leading to angst-ridden sexually-active teens and young adults with distorted realities.
Her manifesto is to have people Know it, Watch it, Do it, and Talk about it, through a digital platform, upon which people can share their real life real love, sex videos.
Let’s be clear, we’re not talking staged, ooh-yeah-baby, waxed, whipping performances, we’re talking loving, often hilarious, sticky, condom snapping, wind breaking, wet patch dodging, whoops-too-soon, whoops-too-late, OMFG that was awesome and I love you so bloody much, Real Life Sex.
The platform is segmented into appropriate audiences, and can be used for education, entertainment, demonstration, or even chat forum on topics ranging from how to help your lady orgasm – yes that tricky topic ladies and gents, to “Mum, where did I come from?” The real life content can be rented for a small fee, half of which goes to the platform, half to the ‘Makelovenotporn Star.’ Everyone wins, viewer, student, platform and star.
Whether or not you agree with her proposition, you have to admire her guts and conviction. Cindy and her team are keeping it real.
“We want to reassure people the same shit happens to all of us, which we don’t yet know because no-one talks about it.”
Since posting this I’ve had some really interesting conversations about whether or not makelovenotporn will drive change and if so, in what form.
What’s your view on this highly relevant, human topic? Let me know in the comments, or contact me through the contact page.