Last week on The Bachelorette, Sam and Sasha shimmied their schizzle with the tango. Black flares, bare chest and satin clad heaving bosoms loomed large across the t.v. screen.
I looked across at Hubstar, “lambada with you in Buenos Aires is on my bucket list. Isn’t it sexy?” I sighed.
He visibly flinched, face like a kindy kid on stage for the first time; sheer abject horror. He squirmed in his seat, mumbled something. I looked over at middlest boy, age fourteen. He looked bemused.
What IS it with men and dancing? Most of you would rather crash tackle Sonny Bill Williams than tango or lambada with your lady. Even if the lady has cleavage up to her chin. Is it really the ultimate in mortification?
I wonder if it’s something to do with identity and self confidence. Is it somehow not manly to dance? Is it perceived to be something only effeminate men do?
To my sassy female eye, nothing would be sexier, well almost nothing, than a tango or lambada in South America with the man I love and desire. Phew, hose me down baby.
I think, and I’m happy to be proved wrong here by multitudes of outraged but reasonable men, that it’s connected to what makes a man feel sexy and how he identifies as sexy. Work with me here.
Currently I’m conducting some empirical research on what makes a man feel sexy and alluring, and my god it’s like pulling teeth. More blank looks and urms than a bunch of footballers in an advanced maths class.
I’m fast coming to the conclusion that most men actually don’t know what makes them feel sexy. On the other hand, many women I’ve asked have immediately hypothesised what their men would say. We do that, it’s one of our annoying habits. Few of us however, have actually asked. Myself included.
Apparently, dancing the tango and lambada, or at least the prospect of doing so, do not make you feel sexy, up close hip swishing and grinding notwithstanding. But what if you were All Blacks grade confident at it?
Oh, an image of lambada with Dan Carter just shimmied into my head. Goodness, can we? *wipes fevered brow*
Of the chaps who’ve answered, my questions about what makes them feel alluring, confidence is coming out at number one criteria . When you guys feel confident you feel sexy. This is a good start but if I am to share some meaningful insights with you all, you need to give me more, gents.
More information please.
My question is this, what makes men feel sexy and alluring? email me: sara@saralucasdotcomdotau (the funny format stops the spambots).
Come on, it’s a nice direct question, no female hidden agenda.
Meanwhile if you have no idea what the lambada looks like, pour yourself a Malbec and watch this.